Josh O'Sullivan will never remember what life was
like with a foreskin.
Last year, when he was three weeks old, his dad
Ryan took him to be circumcised. ... at an Auckland medical centre and
[it] cost around $500. Although he wasn't doing it for specific medical
or cultural reasons, O'Sullivan felt very strongly about the importance
of the procedure. "Even if my wife
had said 'no', I would have still done it."
The medical profession, he says, weren't
encouraging. "The midwife sort of frowned upon it, but she let it go,
and even the doctor who performed the circumcision, he tells you the
pros and cons of the whole deal and it's almost like they are trying to
talk you out of it." He says it was hard seeing his son in pain, ...
O'Sullivan is Pakeha [New Zealander of non-Maori descent], not
Polynesian, Jewish or Muslim, which is increasingly rare among parents
who have their boys circumcised ...
Sunday Star-Times, Auckland, New Zealand, March 23, 2008
My (now ex) husband was adamant, 'this child WILL
be circ'd'. His reasons were varied, and irrationally changed with each
rational discussion. He finally admitted that he had no logical reason
- no religious reason, no valid health reason, no reasonable societal
reason, but he wanted it done nonetheless.
QueBella, posting on Thisisby.us..com
April 25, 2008,
Well no matter what, my male children will be cut.
Nothing will change that.
- Tired of silly, posting on msnbc Newsvine 31 March, 2009
D[arling ]h[usband] said we are having it done to
our son, no questions asked...
sorry im not much help!
Bellstar9 on The Bump, January 25, 2010
Up until my son was born, I was on the fence about
circumcision. Ultimately, it was my husband's decision and he chose to
have him cut with no real research (which I did extensive amounts of)
and did it because he was. He was adament about it being done and I
felt like my son's choice was taken away. When they came to take him, I
sobbed and begged for a compromise; he'll be cut, but in a bris. We are
not Jewish, but I found a mohel who would do it in a secular cermoney
since I am Pagan. I felt it would be a better way to do it because I
would be allowed to be with him and seems less traumatic, but alas,
that wasn't a choice for my husband either.
Pua Smith on The Stir June 13, 2011
He flipped. He became enraged and totally
irrational. He insisted that it must be done, that it would be done. He
didnít want to do any research and didnít want to talk about it with
me. He acted in a way I had never before or since seen him behave. He
insisted that a boy had to look like his father. [It turned out his
father was intact.]
Sarah on the Front Porch Swing, March 31,
...my husband who was circumcised could not
IMAGINE that a foreskin was a part of a penis, because he didn't have a
foreskin... and his penis was FINE... not DAMAGED! He could not get
over that leap between him being sexually fine and another man being
fine with even more sexual anatomy than he had. He was in a state of
panic between common sense and self defense. Our fights were fierce- I
was astounded at his reaction- he did not seem like himself- it was
like he was a robot who was programmed with a execute circumcision
command... and my putting an unplanned obstacle in that path made the
whole system go berzerk.
The most upsetting scene of the whole time was my
husband curled in a fetal position on the couch with a pillow crammed
over his crotch crying... and still demanding that we had to do this.
For me it was like watching regression therapy- I was seeing my husband
relive the pain of his own circumcision... his outward body clenched in
such a self defensive curl- emotionally he was begging to have a
solution to this pain... and the solution that he thought he had found
was to circumcise the baby... to make circumcision right. It was the
only way he could convince himself that circumcision is a reasonable
thing to do to babies...to men.
the same Sarah on Mothering.com, February 3, 2004
Before my first son, I researched circumcision thoroughly, found out
what a horrible procedure it is, and convinced my ex-husband that we
should not circumcise him (even though my ex-husband is circumcised).
He reluctantly agreed, and our son was not circumcised. When our second
son came around, there wasn't even any dicussion about circumcising him.
Several years later, our relationship deteriorated
to the point where we ended up getting divorced. After that, he didn't
want to spend too much time with the boys, and only wanted them over
one weekend a month.
About 4 months ago, after the boys came back from
their weekend with him, I could immediately tell something was wrong.
It turned out he had both our
beautiful boys circumcised.
After they had healed, there wasn't even any skin bunching up behind
their penis heads -- and the circumcision scars are roughly half way
down their shafts. They have had a lot removed.
Of course, they
hate their circumcisions. They are frequently bothered by
their bared and scarred genitals rubbing in their underwear. My ex
seems to think I'm over reacting over this. He tells me that eventually
calluses will build up, and they will begin to appreciate their
Julia on Mothering.com, March 1, 2013
I didn't really want to have our 2 sons circ'd,
but my DH was adamant...there
were several arguments over it the first time around, but in the end,
my DH felt very very strongly in favor of circ'ing, so we did. ...
The circ itself did not heal as well as we would have liked, and as
well as the second child's. ...
Allyssa Wheaton-Rodriguez on Parenting.com, March 29, 2013
My son was circumcised about 24 hours after his
birth. My husband was adamant
about having the procedure.
Deena Myers Jenkins on Parenting.com, March 29, 2013
Facebook, January 17, 2014
"I know a momma that is a little over 24wks or so
preggo with a boy and plans to cut him...I messaged her some helpful
info and links...and then left it be for 2wks...messaged her today and
asked if she had made a decision or did any research and she says she
is leaving it up to the dad and her 1st was cut and is fine. ...
I sent her a message that said "Can you and daddy sit down and watch
this?" and sent the link to Penn & Teller bullshit video. And
this is what I got back "Did is da father. Leave her alone bout dis
crap. Ur aggravatin her which is aggravatin. My
son WILL b circumsized and theres NOT A DAMN THING U CAN DO ABOUT IT.
A friend of Brother K, May
My boys are circumcised. And I am not a bad
mother, my husband absolutely
insisted that they were done. It is each their own. To
judge each other is wrong I don't know much about girls being done but
I would not change that we as parents had it done and if you don't want
to have it done to your child good for you but get over that others do.
And if later in life your boys get it done because you didn't do it
when they were baby's don't judge them or shame them for it.
Shanna Ingle on Facebook, August 14, 2014
"My son stayed in
the hospital for a week after I was discharged, due to his
bilirubinemia. My husband and I fought and argued about circumcision
for months leading up to our son's birth. He knew I was totally against
it. On the one day I
left the hospital to run a few errands and go home and get
a change of clothes (the ONLY day I left the hospital), my husband gave consent for
circumcision. When I got back to the hospital, my son had been cut.
I can't even tell you how this makes me feel. My husband thinks I'm
overreacting and is proud his son "looks like him". I'm so disgusted
with myself. I should have never left my son's side. I don't think I
will ever forgive my husband."
- A friend of
Brother K on Facebook, January 3, 2015
Facebook, December 11, 2012
Facebook, April 25, 2013
ace81620 in babycentre, August 14, 2014
(An adamant doctor)
When we had the meeting in 1997 in Belfast with
the Consultants of the Health Trust who were performing circumcisions,
after failing to give us any medical indication for performing the
proceedure one of those present became very aggressive, thumped the
table, pointed at me and I quote:
"I don't care what she says I am
still gonna do it."
He did in fact continue to do so and as far as I
am aware still does although he moved to the private sector to continue
in his mission to circumcise without medical need.
Linda Massie, pers. com. July